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So you found out he's not that into you. Or perhaps she already has a boyfriend. Moping over your crush isn't going to do any good. It is time to move on. Whether it is a long-time friend or that acquaintance you kept running into, getting over a crush is hard but doable with positive distractions, the support of your friends and a change in perspective.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
In order to move on, it is important to talk about your feelings. Invite your closest friend over and vent. It is essential to let yourself mourn when trying to get over someone, according to Debbie Magids, a therapist quoted in the Glamour Magazine article, "How to Get Over the Guy You Can't Get Over." Magids recommends giving yourself time to wallow in sadness, whether that means curling up with ice cream and a sad movie or listening to music. Allow yourself a few days to feel sad, then move forward.
Focus On You
You've spent enough time thinking about your crush. Now it is time to focus on the things that make you happy. Delve into one of your favorite hobbies -- like tackling a complicated recipe or hiking a challenging mountain. Take the time to work on loving yourself. This will help you prepare for real love, suggests Susan J. Elliott, author of the book, "Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You." Avoid contact with your crush. Stop following her on social media pages and skip a popular hangout spot if you know he's there.
Connect With Friends
The support and affection of friends is crucial to moving forward, according to Preston Ni, professor of communication studies at Foothill College in Silicon Valley, Calif., in the Psychology Today article, "The Break-Up Cure: 7 Ways to Heal & Find Happiness Again." Spending time with friends offers both a distraction and a support system. Go to brunch or dinner with your girlfriends or plan to shoot hoops with the guys. If you are having a hard time not talking about your crush, ask friends to call you out each time you bring her up.
Find the Flaws
When you have a crush on someone, you tend to see everything that person does as perfect. Take the blinders off and see that the person has flaws like the rest of us. Maybe that hard edge you thought was attractive is really a bad attitude. Perhaps that flawless skin is actually just caked-on makeup. Writing down a list of cons about that person can help you feel better.
Embrace the Rejection
Change the way you think about the situation. If the other person doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason, that's his or her issue, not yours. You know what you have to offer. If someone can't see that, it shouldn't affect how you feel about yourself. Stop looking at rejection as the worst thing in the world. Rejection can clear the path for the right person to come into your life.
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| Tips to Get Over a Crush |
In order to move on, it is important to talk about your feelings. Invite your closest friend over and vent. It is essential to let yourself mourn when trying to get over someone, according to Debbie Magids, a therapist quoted in the Glamour Magazine article, "How to Get Over the Guy You Can't Get Over." Magids recommends giving yourself time to wallow in sadness, whether that means curling up with ice cream and a sad movie or listening to music. Allow yourself a few days to feel sad, then move forward.
You've spent enough time thinking about your crush. Now it is time to focus on the things that make you happy. Delve into one of your favorite hobbies -- like tackling a complicated recipe or hiking a challenging mountain. Take the time to work on loving yourself. This will help you prepare for real love, suggests Susan J. Elliott, author of the book, "Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You." Avoid contact with your crush. Stop following her on social media pages and skip a popular hangout spot if you know he's there.
Connect With Friends
The support and affection of friends is crucial to moving forward, according to Preston Ni, professor of communication studies at Foothill College in Silicon Valley, Calif., in the Psychology Today article, "The Break-Up Cure: 7 Ways to Heal & Find Happiness Again." Spending time with friends offers both a distraction and a support system. Go to brunch or dinner with your girlfriends or plan to shoot hoops with the guys. If you are having a hard time not talking about your crush, ask friends to call you out each time you bring her up.
Find the Flaws
When you have a crush on someone, you tend to see everything that person does as perfect. Take the blinders off and see that the person has flaws like the rest of us. Maybe that hard edge you thought was attractive is really a bad attitude. Perhaps that flawless skin is actually just caked-on makeup. Writing down a list of cons about that person can help you feel better.
Embrace the Rejection
Change the way you think about the situation. If the other person doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason, that's his or her issue, not yours. You know what you have to offer. If someone can't see that, it shouldn't affect how you feel about yourself. Stop looking at rejection as the worst thing in the world. Rejection can clear the path for the right person to come into your life.
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