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Faizan
Around 2014, I no longer wanted to say yes all the time and to go along with what other people wanted. Not only this, there were times when I could stand my ground and say no.
For a little while before this, I could see what was talking place but I wasn't able to do anything about it. I had been playing a role for so long - a role where it wasn't possible for me to listen to my true needs and feelings.
The Main Area
This was something that typically effected how I behaved in my close relationships; however, this wasn't how I behaved around everyone in my life. For example, one friend could ask me if I wanted to go out and I would just say yes.
I wouldn't take the time to tune into my own needs and to see if this was what I actually wanted to do. When this happened, it was as though I was an extension of this person and didn't have my own life to lead.
One Consequence
Through behaving in this way, I would often end up feeling drained. This was partly due to me not taking the time to relax and partly due to me not listening to my own needs.
But as my needs were often superseded by other people's needs, it was to be expected that I would spend a lot of time feeling as though I was running on empty. When all this was going on, it was just a normal part of my life.
Powerless
As a result of this, I would often feel as though I had no control over my life - that only other people had control. This didn't mean that I would let these people know how I felt, as I felt the need to please them.
For a little while before this, I could see what was talking place but I wasn't able to do anything about it. I had been playing a role for so long - a role where it wasn't possible for me to listen to my true needs and feelings.
The Main Area
This was something that typically effected how I behaved in my close relationships; however, this wasn't how I behaved around everyone in my life. For example, one friend could ask me if I wanted to go out and I would just say yes.
I wouldn't take the time to tune into my own needs and to see if this was what I actually wanted to do. When this happened, it was as though I was an extension of this person and didn't have my own life to lead.
One Consequence
Through behaving in this way, I would often end up feeling drained. This was partly due to me not taking the time to relax and partly due to me not listening to my own needs.
But as my needs were often superseded by other people's needs, it was to be expected that I would spend a lot of time feeling as though I was running on empty. When all this was going on, it was just a normal part of my life.
Powerless
As a result of this, I would often feel as though I had no control over my life - that only other people had control. This didn't mean that I would let these people know how I felt, as I felt the need to please them.
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