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Faizan
People (at all ages), often say things like, "you made me feel this way", etc. It just simply isn't true. Only you decide how you're going to feel. No one has that power over you.
You get to decide whether or not to react or respond to someone/something. Not the other way around. Now, if you notice you constantly feel bad around someone, you will want to look at why that is. Are you needing to work on setting boundaries with others, is there another reason why this is persisting, or does this person have a negative energy about them and it's time to take control of who you're surround yourself with? In any event, it is still your decision on how you react. I remember being told this by someone years ago when I was first entering the self-development arena. I got it intellectually, but didn't really "get it" on a deeper level. This involves a lot of inner work, and it starts with taking responsibility for every single thing happening in your life.
It amazes me when people complain about not getting the results in their life. You are your only problem. If you aren't getting what you want externally, something is off internally. What is happening on the outside of you is a direct result of your thinking. Always. Regardless if it's negative or positive. You need to look inside. Who are you being or not being? What type of thinking is causing you to stay stuck? Do you believe you have to struggle or think the potential clients you are talking to just aren't ready to take action? You are fooling yourself. This is your subconscious trying to keep you stuck. It has a positive intention, which is to keep you where you feel safe. Growing a business involves risk and putting yourself out there. This can be scary and to the subconscious it's not a safe zone.
In order to figure out where your thinking is off, you will need to look. If you are speaking to your ideal client and they decide not to move forward with your service, the problem is you. Something is going wrong in the sales conversation. It is likely that you're stopping yourself from asking those tougher questions because you care too much what they think of you. However, if you don't ask those tougher questions, they will not see that they need your help and that you're the one to provide the help.
Look at the results you're getting/not getting and determine if you're where you want to be. If they're in line with your vision, then awesome! If not, take a hard look at your thinking. No one is to blame but you.
You get to decide whether or not to react or respond to someone/something. Not the other way around. Now, if you notice you constantly feel bad around someone, you will want to look at why that is. Are you needing to work on setting boundaries with others, is there another reason why this is persisting, or does this person have a negative energy about them and it's time to take control of who you're surround yourself with? In any event, it is still your decision on how you react. I remember being told this by someone years ago when I was first entering the self-development arena. I got it intellectually, but didn't really "get it" on a deeper level. This involves a lot of inner work, and it starts with taking responsibility for every single thing happening in your life.
It amazes me when people complain about not getting the results in their life. You are your only problem. If you aren't getting what you want externally, something is off internally. What is happening on the outside of you is a direct result of your thinking. Always. Regardless if it's negative or positive. You need to look inside. Who are you being or not being? What type of thinking is causing you to stay stuck? Do you believe you have to struggle or think the potential clients you are talking to just aren't ready to take action? You are fooling yourself. This is your subconscious trying to keep you stuck. It has a positive intention, which is to keep you where you feel safe. Growing a business involves risk and putting yourself out there. This can be scary and to the subconscious it's not a safe zone.
In order to figure out where your thinking is off, you will need to look. If you are speaking to your ideal client and they decide not to move forward with your service, the problem is you. Something is going wrong in the sales conversation. It is likely that you're stopping yourself from asking those tougher questions because you care too much what they think of you. However, if you don't ask those tougher questions, they will not see that they need your help and that you're the one to provide the help.
Look at the results you're getting/not getting and determine if you're where you want to be. If they're in line with your vision, then awesome! If not, take a hard look at your thinking. No one is to blame but you.
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