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Making your relationship work requires that you make your girlfriend happy. While everyone is unique and no one set of behaviors will make every woman satisfied in her relationship, there are some basic fundamentals that can make a difference. What can you do to make her happy?
Listen. This alone will make a big difference in how she feels. Good, active listening skills will allow her to feel heard and assure her that you are actually aware of how she is feeling. When listening, make eye contact and lean toward her. Avoid interrupting, but periodically rephrase what she is saying to make sure you understand. Avoid offering advice or suggestions unless she solicits them.
Be honest. Honesty, in both your actions and your feelings, will make a big difference in her overall happiness in your relationship. Dishonestly, whether in small ways or large, will at the very least cause dissatisfaction, and can be deeply destructive. Early on, if your girlfriend does not like you for who you really are, lying will in no way improve the situation. If she cannot enjoy your company and be happy with you when you are being yourself, the relationship is doomed. Lies can be terribly destructive later in a relationship, even if they were told much earlier.
Treat her with respect. Theoretically, if you are dating her, you actually like her. So act like you do. Introduce her to your friends, family and co-workers. Avoid sharing information that should be private with your friends. Keep plans when you make them, and make sure she knows she is high on your list of priorities.
Fight fair. Every couple argues, but arguing should not include name calling, belittling or hurtful behavior. Keep the argument about the situation at hand and avoid bringing up past baggage. While "Don't go to bed angry" is a bit of a cliche, it still holds true. Work out problems promptly, and avoid letting difficult situations drag on. Do share your feelings, even if you are concerned that it may close an argument. Keeping your girlfriend happy is harder if she does not know what is in your head and heart.
Be affectionate. On the whole, women everywhere would like more hand-holding, cuddling on the couch and kissing. Simple, casual affection will reinforce your interest in her and help her to feel close and connected. Moreover, affection outside the bedroom often leads to more affection and closeness in the bedroom. Be sure that the two of you are communicating openly about intimate issues and desires.
Recognize what makes her feel loved. Often, people will offer love in the ways they prefer to receive it. While physical closeness might be most important to you in terms of feeling loved, doing things for her or spending time together might matter more to her. If you can recognize what helps her to feel loved, you will find it easy to make your girlfriend happy.
Listen. This alone will make a big difference in how she feels. Good, active listening skills will allow her to feel heard and assure her that you are actually aware of how she is feeling. When listening, make eye contact and lean toward her. Avoid interrupting, but periodically rephrase what she is saying to make sure you understand. Avoid offering advice or suggestions unless she solicits them.
Be honest. Honesty, in both your actions and your feelings, will make a big difference in her overall happiness in your relationship. Dishonestly, whether in small ways or large, will at the very least cause dissatisfaction, and can be deeply destructive. Early on, if your girlfriend does not like you for who you really are, lying will in no way improve the situation. If she cannot enjoy your company and be happy with you when you are being yourself, the relationship is doomed. Lies can be terribly destructive later in a relationship, even if they were told much earlier.
Treat her with respect. Theoretically, if you are dating her, you actually like her. So act like you do. Introduce her to your friends, family and co-workers. Avoid sharing information that should be private with your friends. Keep plans when you make them, and make sure she knows she is high on your list of priorities.
Fight fair. Every couple argues, but arguing should not include name calling, belittling or hurtful behavior. Keep the argument about the situation at hand and avoid bringing up past baggage. While "Don't go to bed angry" is a bit of a cliche, it still holds true. Work out problems promptly, and avoid letting difficult situations drag on. Do share your feelings, even if you are concerned that it may close an argument. Keeping your girlfriend happy is harder if she does not know what is in your head and heart.
Be affectionate. On the whole, women everywhere would like more hand-holding, cuddling on the couch and kissing. Simple, casual affection will reinforce your interest in her and help her to feel close and connected. Moreover, affection outside the bedroom often leads to more affection and closeness in the bedroom. Be sure that the two of you are communicating openly about intimate issues and desires.
Recognize what makes her feel loved. Often, people will offer love in the ways they prefer to receive it. While physical closeness might be most important to you in terms of feeling loved, doing things for her or spending time together might matter more to her. If you can recognize what helps her to feel loved, you will find it easy to make your girlfriend happy.
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