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Faizan
Guilt - is what kicks in when most of us stop doing and start listening. Because we are not "producing" according to other people's definition.
We are told to do, do, do. "Take action!" "Just Do It!" "Get off your ass!" If you are not taking action, you are procrastinating. You are a loser. You judge yourself, before anyone steps in to judge you.
We are in a society where we fear missing out. We need to do, do, do so we have something to show for - doesn't matter what that is. We don't feel we can rest until the to-do list has been checked off.
But the do, do, do mentality can send us down the rabbit hole of busy work. It can become the hamster wheel we unknowingly enslave ourselves to.
Have you had the experience of going down the route of doing something because "everyone else is doing it" and only to find out, 6 months down the rabbit hole, that it's not taking you the direction you want to go? I have.
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It's not just me. I have seen this over and over again with my clients:
When I first started coaching clients, I put a lot of emphasis on "taking action." Until I realized if I pushed my clients to do stuff without a solid foundation of clarity and conviction, they don't get anything meaningful done... if they could get off their duff at all.
Despite the "appearance" that they are spending a couple of weeks upfront to look inward and not making "outward" progress, now I insist my clients to go through the dig deep/exploration/face the Truth process because at the end, they become committed to the direction they choose, they are guided by their big Why and they won't go down the rabbit hole only to realize they are on the wrong path 6 months later.
What amazes me is, when my clients take the time and give themselves the space to find their clarity, nail their message, claim their superpowers and get their mindset on board, their progress become much faster than just muscling through a to-do list.
Rick had his big vision stewing in his head for two years when he started working with me. The first thing we did was to get clear on his message and vision - it wasn't all smooth sailing and it took us quite a few weeks. But after the clarity clicked, BAM! 12 weeks into our coaching he had his signature program designed and a website launched!
Kristie came to me wanting to change her business model from per-session to programs and packages. She knew intellectually what to do but she was stuck - despite her go-getter personality, she couldn't seem to make the transition. We spent a few weeks to help her get clear on her big Why, work through her fears and upgrade her mindset. It took us 6 weeks of "stillness" to get things sorted... but once we had the clarity and mindset bit figured out, she signed 9 clients in 3 weeks to her new packages!
When I first talked to Dana, she had a little success running some detox programs but was not feeling fulfilled because deep down, she had a bigger message to share. She was losing her fire and with that, motivation and conviction. We helped her get clear on her message, find her voice and claim her identity, so she can be all of her in her business.
Puja came to me with a big (but somewhat vague) vision and she was starting from scratch. We helped her put a stake in the ground, get clear on her Who and Why, claim her superpowers and tailored strategies according to her money personality and strengths. Guess what happened? 6 sessions in she scored a speaking opportunity to present in front of UN staff - she didn't even have a website yet!! (Yes, UN, as in the United Nations.)
We are told to do, do, do. "Take action!" "Just Do It!" "Get off your ass!" If you are not taking action, you are procrastinating. You are a loser. You judge yourself, before anyone steps in to judge you.
We are in a society where we fear missing out. We need to do, do, do so we have something to show for - doesn't matter what that is. We don't feel we can rest until the to-do list has been checked off.
But the do, do, do mentality can send us down the rabbit hole of busy work. It can become the hamster wheel we unknowingly enslave ourselves to.
Have you had the experience of going down the route of doing something because "everyone else is doing it" and only to find out, 6 months down the rabbit hole, that it's not taking you the direction you want to go? I have.
***
It's not just me. I have seen this over and over again with my clients:
When I first started coaching clients, I put a lot of emphasis on "taking action." Until I realized if I pushed my clients to do stuff without a solid foundation of clarity and conviction, they don't get anything meaningful done... if they could get off their duff at all.
Despite the "appearance" that they are spending a couple of weeks upfront to look inward and not making "outward" progress, now I insist my clients to go through the dig deep/exploration/face the Truth process because at the end, they become committed to the direction they choose, they are guided by their big Why and they won't go down the rabbit hole only to realize they are on the wrong path 6 months later.
What amazes me is, when my clients take the time and give themselves the space to find their clarity, nail their message, claim their superpowers and get their mindset on board, their progress become much faster than just muscling through a to-do list.
Rick had his big vision stewing in his head for two years when he started working with me. The first thing we did was to get clear on his message and vision - it wasn't all smooth sailing and it took us quite a few weeks. But after the clarity clicked, BAM! 12 weeks into our coaching he had his signature program designed and a website launched!
Kristie came to me wanting to change her business model from per-session to programs and packages. She knew intellectually what to do but she was stuck - despite her go-getter personality, she couldn't seem to make the transition. We spent a few weeks to help her get clear on her big Why, work through her fears and upgrade her mindset. It took us 6 weeks of "stillness" to get things sorted... but once we had the clarity and mindset bit figured out, she signed 9 clients in 3 weeks to her new packages!
When I first talked to Dana, she had a little success running some detox programs but was not feeling fulfilled because deep down, she had a bigger message to share. She was losing her fire and with that, motivation and conviction. We helped her get clear on her message, find her voice and claim her identity, so she can be all of her in her business.
Puja came to me with a big (but somewhat vague) vision and she was starting from scratch. We helped her put a stake in the ground, get clear on her Who and Why, claim her superpowers and tailored strategies according to her money personality and strengths. Guess what happened? 6 sessions in she scored a speaking opportunity to present in front of UN staff - she didn't even have a website yet!! (Yes, UN, as in the United Nations.)
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