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Faizan
I came across this quote, after a few weeks, wherein it would be easy for me to have lost my faith in humanity.
"You many not be able to control someone's behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it."
A friend broke a promise, because it wasn't convenient anymore to keep it. A client, after asking me to set aside time for consulting contract, all of a sudden was "unreachable" and didn't respond to multiple messages. And finally, on Friday, my wallet was pick-pocketed, not is some far-flung city in the world, but a couple of blocks from my home. These incidents put a strain on my inherent belief that people are trustworthy.
I look at the world perhaps from too much of an egocentric point of view. If there was one thing people would say about me is that I am trustworthy and what you see, is what you get. I have no hidden agendas. I don't lie, because I believe in truth and integrity. I keep my promises, even if sometimes they are inconvenient to keep. And I would never steal anything from anyone.
As I strayed into a five-minute pity party, after the wallet incident, I allowed myself to look up into the heavens and say,"Why me?" Is being too trusting a tragic flaw which Shakespeare would incorporate into a character? Should I stop believing people at their word? Should I walk around my neighbourhood with my hand firmly grasping my purse and looking at every person who walks by as a potential thief? Should I enable these events of the last few weeks to alter who I am as a person? Should I give in to the fear of being hurt and disappointed?
I realized when I went through the thought process of changing my approach to life, is that if I did, I would have allowed these people to steal the essence of who I am. And that is not replaceable. I would be allowing these people and the situations which they put in motion to define me forever. I would be giving them everlasting power over me, and destroy an aspect of my humanity, and what makes me, me.
So I ended my pity-party, and it is actually shortly after that when I came across the quote at the beginning of this article.
It was the right message, at the right time. I will continue to trust, and not fear. If I get hurt or disappointed again, which I'm sure will happen, I do so knowing that it was a choice. A choice to not give into the temptation of "fear." A choice to believe in the basic decency of most people. A choice to continue to trust.
"You many not be able to control someone's behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it."
A friend broke a promise, because it wasn't convenient anymore to keep it. A client, after asking me to set aside time for consulting contract, all of a sudden was "unreachable" and didn't respond to multiple messages. And finally, on Friday, my wallet was pick-pocketed, not is some far-flung city in the world, but a couple of blocks from my home. These incidents put a strain on my inherent belief that people are trustworthy.
I look at the world perhaps from too much of an egocentric point of view. If there was one thing people would say about me is that I am trustworthy and what you see, is what you get. I have no hidden agendas. I don't lie, because I believe in truth and integrity. I keep my promises, even if sometimes they are inconvenient to keep. And I would never steal anything from anyone.
As I strayed into a five-minute pity party, after the wallet incident, I allowed myself to look up into the heavens and say,"Why me?" Is being too trusting a tragic flaw which Shakespeare would incorporate into a character? Should I stop believing people at their word? Should I walk around my neighbourhood with my hand firmly grasping my purse and looking at every person who walks by as a potential thief? Should I enable these events of the last few weeks to alter who I am as a person? Should I give in to the fear of being hurt and disappointed?
I realized when I went through the thought process of changing my approach to life, is that if I did, I would have allowed these people to steal the essence of who I am. And that is not replaceable. I would be allowing these people and the situations which they put in motion to define me forever. I would be giving them everlasting power over me, and destroy an aspect of my humanity, and what makes me, me.
So I ended my pity-party, and it is actually shortly after that when I came across the quote at the beginning of this article.
It was the right message, at the right time. I will continue to trust, and not fear. If I get hurt or disappointed again, which I'm sure will happen, I do so knowing that it was a choice. A choice to not give into the temptation of "fear." A choice to believe in the basic decency of most people. A choice to continue to trust.
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